In family law, disputes can become deeply personal and emotionally charged. Mediation stands out as a beacon of hope for many families. This alternative dispute resolution (ADR) method offers a way for parties involved in family law cases—such as divorce, child custody, and property division—to resolve their differences outside of the courtroom in a more amicable, private, and cost-effective manner.
The Orange County divorce lawyers of Minyard Morris have extensive experience serving as mediators or mediation consultants for our clients. Newport Beach individuals and families trust us for our strategic counsel backed by a record of positive results.
Mediation is a voluntary process that involves the disputing parties and a neutral third party, known as the mediator. Unlike a judge or an arbitrator, the mediator does not make decisions for the parties. Instead, their role is to facilitate open, honest communication between the parties to help them reach a mutually acceptable agreement. The mediator assists in identifying the issues at hand, encourages the exploration of various solutions, and helps negotiate an agreement that is satisfactory for all involved.
The process is confidential, which allows parties to discuss matters openly without fear of their words being used against them in court should the mediation not result in a settlement. This confidentiality is critical in family law cases, where sensitive issues and the well-being of children may be involved.
Control Over the Outcome: Unlike court decisions, where the outcome is determined by a judge, mediation allows the parties involved to retain control over the resolution of their dispute. This can lead to more practical and tailored agreements that better meet the specific needs of the family.
Reduced Conflict: Mediation is designed to promote understanding and cooperation. By encouraging open communication, mediation can help reduce the animosity often associated with family law disputes, which is particularly beneficial when children are involved. A less adversarial process helps preserve relationships and makes future cooperation more likely.
Time and Cost Efficiency: Legal battles can be lengthy and expensive. Mediation, on the other hand, can significantly reduce both the time and costs associated with resolving a dispute. By avoiding the drawn-out process of court trials, families can move forward more quickly and with less financial strain.
Flexibility and Convenience: Mediation sessions can be scheduled at times that work for both parties and can be held in neutral locations conducive to open dialogue and negotiation. This flexibility is especially advantageous for families who need to navigate around work schedules and child care commitments.
Privacy: Unlike court proceedings, which are public, mediation is a private process. This privacy can be crucial for families who wish to keep their personal matters confidential.
While mediation offers numerous benefits, it may not be suitable for all situations. Cases involving domestic violence, severe power imbalances, or an unwillingness of one party to negotiate in good faith may require judicial intervention to ensure the safety and rights of all parties are protected. In order for mediation to be successful, both parties must be good “candidates” for the mediation process.
If mediation is successful, a detailed judgment will be drafted, signed and filed with the court. The judgment will become a court order that will bind the parties in the future to the terms of judgment except relative to child support and child custody matters. The judgment may also specifically leave other issues open and/or modifiable. The judgment language must be exact, detailed and understandable. If the judgment is vague or unclear, it may not be enforceable.
The terms of the judgment are so critical that Minyard Morris makes certain that each judgment is reviewed by two different family law attorneys. A non-lawyer or a newer lawyer may not draft the judgment in a way that truly resolves the issues which may result in a return to court in the future with the related costs and risks. Experience is a valuable asset when drafting judgments.
Many family lawyers use mediation as a way to fill out their schedule when not handling non-mediation matters. When you hire a mediator you should be hiring someone who is trained as a mediator and mediates cases at the majority of their practice. There is a skill to successfully mediating family law matters and some lawyers are better than others at getting a deal put together.
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Divorce is a challenging process that often involves complex legal and financial decisions. One of the most critical aspects of a divorce in California is how property is classified and subsequently divided between the spouses. The distinction between separate property and community property under California law plays a pivotal role in determining how assets are handled during divorce proceedings. In this guide, we explore the nuances of separate property and how it interacts with community property in a California divorce.
In California, separate property is defined as assets that belong to only one spouse. There are three main ways through which property is classified as separate:
The timing and source of acquisition are fundamental in determining whether an asset is considered separate or community property. By contrast, community property refers to assets and income acquired by either spouse during the course of the marriage. When a divorce occurs, the court divides community property equally, but not necessarily by splitting each asset in half. Instead, the total value of the community property is divided equally, and the court may assign different assets to each spouse, often using equalization payments to ensure fairness.
Under California law, gifts and inheritances remain the separate property of the spouse who receives them, even if they are acquired during the marriage. However, in order to maintain the separate nature of these assets, it is important that they are not commingled with community property.
For example, if inherited funds are deposited into a joint bank account that contains community money, it may become difficult to distinguish the inherited funds from community property, potentially leading to them being treated as community assets. To prevent this, the recipient should keep inherited assets in a separate account, clearly delineating them from any joint marital funds.
When one spouse owns a business before marriage, the business itself is generally classified as their separate property. However, if the business increases in value during the marriage, particularly due to the owner-spouse’s work or efforts, the community may be entitled to some of the increased value.
California courts apply one of two principal approaches when determining the community’s share of the business’s appreciation:
In some cases, both methods may be applied if the business changes substantially during the marriage. However, the non-owner spouse cannot claim ownership of the business itself; their entitlement is restricted to financial compensation for the business’s growth attributable to the community.
When a business is established or purchased during the marriage, it is typically classified as community property. The court will often award the business to the spouse who is primarily involved in running it, but first, it must determine the value of the business. Business valuation in divorce cases is a complex process and frequently requires expert testimony from forensic accountants.
Two common methods are used to value businesses:
The court focuses on determining the investment value of the business to the spouse who will retain it, which may differ from the market value of the business. If one spouse is required to make an equalization payment, it is calculated on an after-tax basis and is not deductible for tax purposes.
If one spouse owns a home before the marriage, it is considered their separate property. However, if community funds—such as joint income—are used to pay down the mortgage or improve the home during the marriage, the community may acquire a proportionate interest in the property.
To determine how much the community is entitled to, the court uses the Moore Marsden formula. This calculation takes into account the amount of mortgage paid with community funds and the increase in the property’s value during the marriage. The formula ensures that the non-owning spouse receives an appropriate share of the home’s appreciation, based on the contributions made with community assets.
If the owning spouse wishes to convert the home into community property, they must sign a transmutation agreement. This is a formal, written declaration clearly stating the intent to change the ownership of the property. Verbal agreements or informal promises will not suffice under California law.
The date of separation is a critical legal concept in California divorce law, as it marks the point at which community property stops accumulating. Any assets acquired after this date are considered separate property.
Establishing the date of separation requires clear and unequivocal evidence that one spouse has ended the marriage, either through explicit communication or through their actions. Simply moving out or taking a break is insufficient to establish separation unless it is accompanied by a clear intent to permanently end the marital relationship.
Documenting the date of separation in writing—through an email, text message, or formal communication—can help avoid disputes. The date of separation can affect the division of assets, the calculation of spousal support, and the responsibility for post-separation debts.
After the date of separation, each spouse’s earnings become their separate property. However, issues can arise when one spouse uses their post-separation earnings to pay for community expenses, such as shared debts or the mortgage on the family home. In such cases, the spouse who made the payments may be entitled to reimbursement, unless the payment was for something they alone benefited from.
To prevent confusion and potential disputes, it is advisable for separating spouses to immediately separate their finances by closing joint accounts, ceasing the use of shared credit cards, and establishing clear boundaries regarding financial obligations moving forward.
To protect your financial well-being during the separation process, it is essential to take the following steps:
Physical custody refers to where a child primarily resides and the time division between parents. Joint physical custody typically applies when both parents share roughly equal time, or when both have substantial involvement in the child’s daily life. If a parent’s time is notably less, this arrangement is usually termed “visitation” or occasional custodial time.
Legal custody, often granted jointly, allows both parents to make essential decisions regarding a child’s health, education, and well-being. For one parent to have sole legal custody, the court must have a significant reason, usually due to difficulties in co-parenting. For example, if parents cannot agree on a school, the court might award one parent authority specifically over educational choices. This process applies similarly in medical decision disputes.
Some parents wonder if they can make a fixed custody arrangement that’s unchangeable. However, courts retain the authority to revise any custody order. Even if parents draft and sign a seemingly permanent agreement, a judge won’t uphold it as unmodifiable. Any parent can request a change in the arrangement if circumstances alter, as the court’s focus remains on the child’s best interests. Similarly, child support orders are also changeable. Attempts to make these terms unmodifiable are generally ineffective in court.
Courts consider which parent shows willingness to work cooperatively with the other, facilitating frequent, positive interaction with the child. Being polite, cooperative, and flexible often strengthens a parent’s case, while obstructive or retaliatory actions are discouraged. Demonstrating goodwill and respectful interactions, especially when compared to the other parent’s negative behavior, often leaves a favorable impression on the court.
Changing a custody order is purposefully difficult, as courts discourage frequent adjustments for minor shifts. Family law in this area is complex and typically benefits from skilled legal representation. Filing for a modification requires a substantial, clear change in circumstances, without which the court is likely to dismiss the case. Additionally, filing a request without substantial change risks having to cover the other parent’s legal costs.
Parents can attempt a new custody request after losing a previous one, but reapplying without notable changes is generally unwise. The court’s assessment will focus on changes since the last attempt, rather than the initial judgment date, making it essential to present a substantial change in circumstances to avoid penalties.
Adjusting a parenting schedule differs from altering custody itself. Courts may modify the parenting schedule (for example, moving from a 50/50 arrangement to a 2-2-3 schedule) without requiring a significant change in circumstances. However, the court will always consider whether a new arrangement aligns with the child’s best interests.
In some cases, courts might order supervised visitation if they believe a child’s well-being may be at risk. Monitors, who may be family members, friends, or trained professionals, offer a temporary measure for safe visits. Professional monitors must meet training standards, undergo background checks, and typically charge fees, which the court decides who will pay.
Although many courts start with the presumption of a 50/50 custody split, which research suggests benefits children’s development, they’ll adjust this if it doesn’t serve the child’s interests. Courts sometimes move away from equal splits in cases involving safety concerns or other serious issues, moving beyond past practices where primary custody was often awarded to mothers.
Courts understand that no parent is perfect; however, parents involved in custody cases are advised to act as responsibly and child-centered as possible. Poor decisions can damage one’s case, especially when contrasted with the other parent’s favorable behavior. During custody disputes, it’s recommended that parents put their best foot forward to positively influence court perception.
Social media posts, even if harmless or humorous, can be misinterpreted in a negative light. Courts may view social media activity as evidence of poor judgment. While deleting posts could be seen as hiding evidence, it’s wise to limit or stop posts during the custody process.
While people have the right to move, relocating with a child requires court approval to consider the other parent’s rights. Moving without permission can have serious repercussions, as courts view relocation requests through the lens of a child’s well-being. Winning a relocation case at the trial level is essential since appeals in custody cases are rarely successful.
Courts discourage one parent speaking negatively about the other in front of the child, as it can harm the child’s emotional health. Such conduct often results in court-ordered restrictions against making negative comments, and psychologists agree that hearing negative remarks about a parent can damage a child’s self-esteem.
When parents coach children to convey specific messages, it often becomes apparent to the court. Family courts may use child advocates or mental health professionals to assess the child’s best interests. Evidence of coaching may damage a parent’s case significantly.
Courts value a parent’s ability to support the other parent’s custodial rights. Withholding a child from the other parent, even without a formal order, is seen as negative behavior and may hurt the withholding parent’s case. Courts favor parents who are seen as supportive and cooperative in their approach to co-parenting.
Even when divorce is emotionally challenging, retaliating against the other parent generally reflects poorly in custody cases. Courts prioritize the child’s best interests and view cooperative, mature behavior favorably.
Court orders are binding, not suggestions. Non-compliance is perceived as disrespect for the court and can harm the non-complying parent’s future custody standing. It’s crucial to follow all aspects of a custody order to avoid complications in future court proceedings.
Courts advise against using children as go-betweens for parental communication, as this burdens them emotionally. If direct communication is challenging, parents should consider texting or emailing each other instead, keeping children uninvolved in parental disputes.
Appealing a custody decision is challenging and rarely successful, as appeals are typically based on errors in law or cases of clear judicial overreach. Custody cases largely depend on the court’s discretion, making it crucial to achieve a favorable outcome at the trial level.
Mediation in family law represents a compassionate approach to resolving disputes. It emphasizes the importance of communication, mutual respect, and the well-being of the family unit over the adversarial nature of traditional legal battles. By providing a path to amicable resolution, mediation not only helps families navigate the complexities of legal disputes but also lays the groundwork for positive relationships in the future. As families continue to seek constructive ways to resolve conflicts, mediation stands as a valuable and empowering option within the landscape of family law.
For trusted experience with your mediation case, call the Newport Beach family law attorneys of Minyard Morris at 949-724-1111 or contact us online to schedule a consultation. We stand ready to guide you to a strategic and successful resolution of your family law matter.